One-night stand: woman's power

We human beings always fall for the thrilling emotional escapades despite the glaring dangers. One night stand is still alive today as it was ages gone by when the biggest threat to your nether gems was gonorrhea. Well, if you thought the ACHA INIUE DOGODODO SITAACHA (AIDS) was just a juvenile permutation think again.

One night stands is often attributed to many factors. First came the so-called sex revolution which was credited for giving single women the same freedom as men. But single here is a misnomer since girls and boys who can hardly spell their names backwards are often the maestros of this vile vice. So what is the true drive behind the nocturnal sexual escapades that only last singe nights?

Practitioners and victims (if there were any) of the misplaced bliss will readily confess to you about their regret of feeling USED the morning after a one-night stand. Add to that the psychological damage done to both EGO and REPUTATION and contrast it with men’s penchant to brag to friends about their sexual exploits.

But before you dismiss SHORT-FUSED romance, you better know that some of its practitioners draw plenty of pleasure sampling and seizing varieties, the damaging risks notwithstanding. Some even claim that one-night stands are the foundation on which long-term relationships and even marriage is built.

Thrills and perils
Surely love life is a mine field littered with emotional tornadoes waiting to hit every love bird out there. But the truth said one night stands only leaves its victims awash with shame the next morning. Some cannot even stand the sight of sitting next to whoever was right inside/on them just few hours ago.

Sex is one aspect of human life that is full of contradictions. While men will message their egos with the simplistic regret of having gone with a less attractive or undesirable woman, research point to most women dislike for casual relationships and instead prefer quality for quantity. But again the world is a river full of frogs and dish, and while the latter may be delicious to many, the amphibians are a revered dish in other parts of the word.

Men will go to great lengths to perpetuate patriarchal dominance. But the true fear lies in women having the same opportunity. No wonder a man fears bleeding to death from a paper cut oblivious of the fact that a woman loses blood every month during her productive years without any trace of fear of death. What is more, when experiencing her menses, there is a new life inside her. Speak of the immortal fear of the unknown addressed in subjugation.

The Stress of Keeping a Parallel Spouse

Men come in all shapes and shades. But one thread running through their obtuse ego is propensity to have own a spare flame besides the official missus. So what drives to chase extra hearts even when what they own appears too hot and sweet to betray? Well it starts and ends with men being big boys and the conquering mentality.

Remove men from the celebrity circles and the tabloids specializing on exposing elicit romance will definitely fold. Men’s king size ego appear designed to always want more and the more flesh a man samples goes along way to messaging all facets of that ego. Leaves you wondering whether the male species have a heart or what resides inside their chest is a fist-sized organ simply programmed to involuntarily pump blood and keep him alive, period.

Married men are the most calculative creatures standing on two limbs. They shop for bonus knowing well that their fixed deposit is guaranteed to earn interest since the day he pledged I do. Any woman willing to play into his hand will find a cunning soul alloyed with experience albeit gained from an official rival. But again the whole drama can be reduced to men insatiable appetite to eat both chicken and the egg. Our patriarch society and mind frame removes any element of shame but instead makes even schooled men fall back to primitive practices like justifying polygamy.

Emotional plurality
It is a man’s world so they say. And it appears Adam’s descendants are taking that literally and very far. Well, to be fair for every randy man out there is a willing sissy ready to play along. But come to think of it two wrongs never made a right and men must take their emotional responsibilities as serious as they secure their wallets. All the gloomy faces gracing our streets are products of stunted romance in our homes. Love is a process and our men must invest time and resources in nurturing.

Emotional plurality is too an expensive venture for anybody who doesn't own the world bank. Emotional bliss is one thing that anybody is capable of cultivating provided you work on it. There is no free lunch and you either work for it or miss out and hawk your projection any willing depression with attendant grave consequences. Keeping parallel wives is one expensive distraction any responsible man must avoid at all costs. It is not only stupid but FATAL to entertain shimo mbaya ni ya nyoka mentality.

Living With an Unattractive Partner

So what to do when you are no longer physically attracted to your partner? Well, the word fat is often used to connote ugly. Sometimes you may be living in hell trying to hint to your unsightly spouse to hit the gym lakini wapi. Learning to share bed with all MASS may sound pragmatic but painful and unrealistic. Nobody needs an immobile and WHEEZING drum for a partner.

There are no two way in addressing a growing midstream. Being philosophical may make you look witty but then you don’t need sharp wits in bed, or do you? Cutting the mother figure is no excuse to make your body the bin for all junkies and fat on this planet. Only action oriented towards burning fat will do. As a spouse, get involved in your partner’s life and help him/her retrace the ex-shape that made you go gaga.

Wheezing drum
Sex and all its derivative pleasantries are the FIRST casualties of overlapping tummies and near-immobile limbs. Women are particular cagey about their weights and pointing this out requires plenty of tact alloyed in utmost sensitivity to their feelings. You must endeavour never to offend whoever you intend to help lead a beautiful and happy life. And no matter the reluctance to hit the gym you must not give up on her either. So you either face the problem head on or shy away in gnawing silence so as to REAP growing indifference to sex.

Forget about all the poetry and semantics that her beauty resides inside and that the outside doesn't matter. That white lie is not sustainable in the long run; banish it immediately it hits your lips. The only known cure to this explosive phenomenon in relationship is to adopt a collective mindset in confronting the weight monster. No half measures will suffice. And prescription for the cure is only dispensed in effective communication. No substitute. All the excuses about children and finances only become practical issues with a listening ear and a heart to join in the solution.

Rewards of Athletism Around the Waist

Go ye into the world, multiply and fill it so the good scripture says. Religion mean different things to different people. The Duggar family parents from Arkansas Michelle and Jim Bob are on a birthing spree. Michelle, 41, and Jim, 42, have been married for the last 24 years and already have 17 natural children with number 18 coming soon. To this amazing couple they are simply following their evangelical Christian movement called Quiverful, which teaches that children are God’s blessing and that husbands and wives should happily welcome every child they are given.

Married in 1984 when they were just 17 and 19 respectively, Michelle and Jim Bob decided to pray for as many children as God would give them. Within a year, Michelle was pregnant with the first of their two sets of twins. What is more, the real estate agents parents claim their family is debt-free. Effective utilization of the ready labour helped build their 7,000-square-foot home in Tontitown. Psalms 123 verse 3 which proclaims that children are a heritage of the Lord is the motivation for the prolific and fertile Bob and Michelle. They simply let the Lord decide for them go athletic around the waist and plant. They are both so proud of their prowess so much so that they consider the choir natural gift. Michelle adds, “we would love more, and the power of the Lord took our faith to give us another one.”

Full house and still counting
The maths is just mind boggling. The Duggar crowd of 17 range in age from 20 years to 9 months. In the mix are 10 boys and seven girls. With two sets of twins, Michelle has gone through 15 pregnancies that ended in 13 natural deliveries and two Caesarean sections. Consider this Michelle has been pregnant for more than 11 years (135 months to be precise) with an average of 18 months between births. The family estimates it has used 90,000 diapers and launders 200 loads of clothes each month in a row of industrial-size washers and dryers.

The Duggar family consumes 5 loaves of bread each day. Their transportation is facilitated by nine vehicles including a 21-seater mini bus. On average all members of the family have combined to work approximately 39,000 hours on their home.

And we thought Africans have large families. Well, if only feeding this multitude would be as easy as the commensurate excitement from ecstasy during their manufacture. The Duggar school for kids would be handy for an African subsistence farming family but a headache at meal times. They would need tagging that threatens to exhaust all letters of the English alphabet.